For an article on how to pursue learning to dance, read below. This
was published in The Scene Magazine.
Patience, Practice and the Pursuit of Excellence
March 15, 2009
by Barbara Bernstein
An old joke goes as follows: A woman walking down a street in New York City
stopped a passer-by and asked, "Excuse me, but can you tell me how to get to
Carnegie Hall?" The gentleman answered, "Practice, practice, practice!"
A new book out by Malcolm Gladwell (author of Blink) makes a startling
proposition about how to explain exceptional talent. Gladwell describes a
principle he calls "the 10,000 hour" rule. He says that to be very
outstanding at some skill-like a top flight pro tennis player-requires
10,000 hours of practice. That amounts to 20 hours a week for 10 years.
Whether you train to perform or just dance for fun, the same rules apply:
you just cannot become highly skilled without lots of practice; and you
cannot get a lot of practice without being comfortable making mistakes,
picking yourself up and trying again. No matter how talented someone appears
when they dance, they didn't start out that way. They made mistakes and kept
Just as children learn to walk before they run, students of dance learn to
do things slowly before accelerating. It is best to learn new material first
to very slow music and once the move is in muscle memory, gradually kick up
Slow tempos are very "forgiving." For example, if you have excess motion in
your lead, you may be able to slog through a move to a slow speed. But a
faster speed requires greater cleanliness to get through the move, which can
be done once you have practiced the move enough to commit it to muscle
It's important to recognize that knowing something is really a matter of
degree, rather than all or nothing. You don't simply know or not know how to
do a cross body lead, for example. You start out doing it hesitantly and
with awkwardness, and the more you practice, the more confident and smooth
the movement becomes.
Dancers may feel that they already know a move, and understandably want to
learn new moves rather than review what they know. But since learning is
incremental, the more you do it, the better you'll do it (at faster tempos,
with less thought, adding embellishments).
That smoothness and improved technique is what makes you feel good to dance
with and look great on the floor.
Barbara Bernstein is a Rueda de Casino Teacher and Director of
The following article was published in the December 09 issue of Latin Beat
The Seven Sins of Salsa
By Barbara Bernstein and Glen Minto aka: Salsero
So you wanna learn how to dance salsa? Maybe you're already an aspiring salsero/salsera
wanting to take your dancing to the next level. Well, congratulations - you
found us! We're about to show you how to take your dancing to the next level by
listing things to avoid when dancing. After years of discussing some of the
finer points of dancing, two dedicated salseros (Barb and Salsero) have compiled
their experiences of how to get the most enjoyment and learning out of dancing
salsa. "The Seven Sins of Salsa" is a list of common, all-too-human mistakes
that most of us make at one time or another (the authors included!). Avoiding
these mistakes will help you get the most out of your dancing. By gaining skill
and making your dance experience a joyful way to exercise and connect with
others, you will have heaps of fun dancing salsa and gradually learn to dance
better and better.
So here goes… The Seven Sins of Salsa
1a. Leading Yourself (for ladies) - by Barb
Dancing is a partnership activity that requires a coordinated effort by both the
leader and the follower. As we all know, a person can feel and indeed be very
alone in a crowded room, as connection is really a mental state. Likewise, one
can dance with another person and not be responsive to them or be aware of them.
For ladies, what this would mean is anticipating what the leader is doing and
moving herself without waiting for or responding to his lead. Ladies often don't
realize they are doing this when they are! A good example is that a lady may
sense that a turn is coming and turn herself without waiting to be led. Or she
may get the beginning of the lead and then move herself through the turn faster
than the leader was leading her to turn. In both cases, she is not moving as he
leads her, but has "taken over the lead." This is unsatisfying for the leader
because, in a sense, he's not really needed. Even in Rueda de Casino, the
follower should wait for the lead even though she knows the move!
Out-Shining The Ladies (for men) - by Salsero
Let's face it guys, the ladies are just sexier than we are. Thank goodness too!
But seriously, when the ladies look good, we look good. When the ladies don't
look good dancing, we don't – no matter how good we are. Trust me on this one
guys, you do NOT want to be one of those salseros that does all the cool tricks,
dips, and shines, with a lady that just started dancing two weeks ago – even if
you know how to do the cool tricks, dips, and shines. What do I mean? Let's
examine a typical scenario: You're dancing with the girl and suddenly you decide
you want some "me time." You give the lady a free spin and let her do her thing
while you do your thing. If you see the lady doesn't know what to do, or she's
only doing the basic steps instead of a really cool eye-catching shine, then
don't overdo it with your shine either. Always be mindful of your partner's
ability to dance and the level she's dancing at. Doing so will go a long way in
helping you master leading in general and help you increase your skill in
dancing with multiple ladies. Think about it this way: Would you rather dance
with one beautiful girl at a night club or all the beautiful girls at a night
club? If the answer is with all the beautiful girls, then try not to commit the
sin of out-shining your lady!
2. Dancing Off Time/Out of Rhythm to the Music - by Barb
Ahhh... Dancing off time - the dancer's nightmare!
First, we have to discuss what this means. If a person breaks on 3 or 4 instead
of his intended 1 or 2, but does so consistently, is that off time? The answer
to that depends on your definition of "off time." My own concept of being off
time is not dancing in the rhythm of the music. To me, dancing consistently on
any beat may not be fully correct, but the timing is predictable to your
partner. It's keeping the music's tempo, at least. The most egregious meaning of
"off time" is dancing the 4 beats in what is really 4 and a half beats of music,
or 3 and a half beats of music, etc. In this case, dancing off time means
dancing independently of the music's rhythm or tempo. This creates a disconnect
between the movement and the music. The music provides merely a pleasant
background to move to, but has no true bearing on the timing of the steps. This
scenario is the most serious definition of "off time" and the one that I'm
addressing. Sometimes, in such a case, the dancer grasps the beat but cannot
make their feet move to that beat – they need practice moving feet faster. If
after a lot of practice, the individual still dances this way, it's a good bet
they cannot feel the music's beat. It's very hard to teach someone to feel that
"musical pulse" if they don't feel it on their own. It feels uncomfortable to
his/her partner to dance off beat in this manner because at certain points in
time during an 8-beat phrase, dancers are stable and at other points in time
they can be moved into a step. If both partners are not in time, then one
partner may be trying to move when the other is stable or vice versa. It creates
a kind of dance argument or disagreement. The partners are not working together.
If you have been told that you have difficulty hearing the beat, you can pay
attention to your partner's beat and try to match it even if you aren't hearing
the music's beat. That way you are still in-synch with your dance partner. This
will go a long way to mitigating the effect of difficulty with the rhythm.
3. Thinking There's Only One Right Way to Dance Salsa - by Barb
People unfortunately sometimes believe that the way they dance is the only right
way. We all pick how we like to do things based on principles of what we feel
looks best or feels best and natural to us, so of course our way is the way we
prefer! Yet, while everything is not "relative" and there are some rights and
wrongs, there are also many "acceptable" ways to dance. In Casino Rueda for
example, there are often countless ways to do any given move as well as ways to
style it. It's best to think of these approaches as just that: variable
approaches rather than right or wrong ways to dance. This is particularly
important in making a dancer flexible so he/she can dance with anyone. We all
dance comfortably with our dance class friends or dance teammates. However, the
world is populated by many who aren't in that set, and to dance with them, a
great deal of flexibility and acceptance is helpful!
4. Learning to Run Before You Walk - by Barb
This refers to dancers trying to learn advanced moves before they get a real
handle on the basics. People are naturally attracted to flashy movements, but
any lady will tell you that well executed and physically comfortable basics are
more fun to do than poorly executed flashy moves. The latter are awkward and can
even strain her while basic movements smoothly done can be quite satisfying and
she'll show it in how she looks! So, for both leads and follows, be patient with
studying the fundamentals as you learn them in layers. First, you get the moves,
you smooth them out, and then you grasp them well enough to add styling/flairs.
Finally, you grasp the basic elements at a deeper level...and the cycle
continues. You learn this material better and better. It's like practicing
scales for a musician; it's something you do for a very long time. Once you are
very solid on fundamentals, the more advanced moves are easier to grasp, easier
to do, and you will execute them more skillfully.
5. Not practicing good dance etiquette - by Barb
This covers a host of "sins!" People can take up too much space on a crowded
floor; they can dance to show off ("the sin of pride"); they may invade their
partner's space and dance too intimately, etc. There are many etiquette rules
than can be breached. Essentially, etiquette is a matter of being considerate of
all those around you-your partner as well as others. Good etiquette is also
aided by common sense. You don't want to do tricks on a crowded club floor as
not only you and your partner, but those around you could get hurt, for example.
Likewise, dancing to strut your skills doesn't make your partner feel important.
(See sin 1b above). Dancing too close to a partner may also make him/her
uncomfortable. If you are watching your partner's reaction, you may be able to
read how they are receiving you and make adjustments; it's a matter of caring
enough to be sensitive to their signals. This applies equally to those around
you at a club!
6a. Assuming That Errors Are Due to Your Partner - by Barb
Most mistakes have some influence from both partners. It's pretty rare that an
error is due entirely to one person. If a couple is dancing, for example, and
the lady doesn't have quite enough tension in her arms, the man must lead more
forcefully to get her to follow. To avoid feeling yanked, the lady may loosen up
further. The man must then lead even stronger. Many dance interactions are like
this! Don't fall into the trap of thinking that mistakes require that the other
person make a correction. Another way to think about this is that if one if the
partners changes what he/she does, that alone may avoid a problem, even if the
move isn't totally perfect. You can be aware of how to correct an issue even if
your partner isn't doing something right, and compensate for them so the move
can be executed. You cannot change someone else, you can only change yourself,
and people who can compensate for others are much loved on the dance floor as
that takes skill and consideration! Think about this: In a class, the teacher
can generally dance with everyone and get through all the moves, but the
students may have trouble doing the moves with each other. The strength of the
teacher's knowledge of the moves enables the partnership to get through the move
adequately despite the student's mistakes. So, make it your business to
strengthen your own dancing, and don't worry if your partner isn't always doing
things the best way.
6b. It's Always The Guy's Fault - NOT!!! (for men) - By Salsero
Salsero here. Ladies, please move on to the next section…this is only for the
Guys, have you heard that if anything goes wrong it's always the guy's fault?
Quite frankly, most of the time, it's the ladies' fault. I mean, I've been hit
in the face more times than I can remember (now I'm like a ninja expert at
avoiding these unsuspecting hits from nowhere). Actually, the second to last
time it happened, about a couple of months ago, I was in the bathroom bleeding
for over an hour and had a bruise on my lip for DAYS (grrrr). The last time it
happened, I didn't bleed at all but this girl hit me on my jaw so hard, it hurts
when I try to yawn - even today! And that's supposed to be "My Fault???" But I
digress - this article is about you, not me. Guys, we're men, and so we have to
take being hit like a man. Feel me? If a lady hits you in the face, and you know
it's entirely her fault, try to smile it off and proceed with extreme caution to
finish dancing with her while you eagerly await the song to be over. Try not to
storm off the dance floor and let the lady feel even more embarrassed than she
does. That way, the other beautiful ladies who are waiting to dance with you and
who saw what happened will know that you're a real gentleman. That being said,
and to echo what Barb said, you have to be cognizant of your own leading
ability. No one expects you to be perfect. But if you can develop an
understanding of what went wrong AND WHY, you will be in a better position to
try to avoid the same problem in the future. And so, while errors do happen,
don't succumb to the sin of assuming that errors are due solely to your partner
and try and not make the same error twice. I know, I'm preaching to the choir!
7. Not having fun!! - By Barb and Salsero
Taking yourself too seriously.
Dancing is often an expression of joy. Think of the victory dances players do
after making a touchdown, for example. To keep that fresh, joyful approach alive
on the floor, make sure you don't lose that outlook as you learn. Getting every
step or technique just right takes a lot of practice. It isn't the end of the
world to mess up a move or lose your balance on a double/triple turn. Most
important is having a great time as you learn. That way you'll keep coming back
and in time you will master what you practice! Remember that it's all about fun,
and dance with love, joy, and playfulness in your heart. When your dancing comes
from a place of loving music and movement, it will show through; and the
technique will come in time. This attitude will make your own experience rich,
and will make dancing fun for you and your partner.
Even though we chose to
focus on only seven sins or pitfalls of salsa dancing, don't think for a second
that those are the only ones. However, avoiding the Seven Sins of Salsa will
help you tremendously in improving your dancing experiences with your partner.
Remember, no matter how many pitfalls there are, the rewards and pleasure of
dancing Salsa far exceeds those pitfalls. So, cast aside your fears, shred your
doubts, stop reading this article and get up and go out on the dance floor AND
DANCE!!! (Did you remember to grab your partner?)
Barbara Bernstein is director of DanceInTimeProductions (www.DanceInTime.com),
a Cuban salsa (rueda) group in the DC/VA/Baltimore area.